BeiNG nicE..
sometimes when you are very shui bian or u dun mind most of the things, you dun calculate and u try ur best to help when requested, you know wat u ended to be? ans: you will be taken for granted. ppl will think "aiya, so and so ok with anything one la, so dun worry abt it lor, she wouldn't mind one la, she such a nice & understanding person." this is wat will happen if you r nice all the time. when you always spare a tot for wat ppl think, will they spare a tot for u as well? will they put themselves in ur shoe and think for u?
i admit sometimes i oso forgot abt other ppl's feeling and say the wrong thing at the wrong time, but i've always spare a tot for other ppl and i've always try to be nice and help out everytime i'm requested to.. or sometimes i even offer to help out without being asked to.. maybe that's y sometimes i feel unhappy when ppl neglected my feelings.. even if nasty things happen, i'll just treat it as something that had past and not bear grudges like some ppl does..
i was just wondering if ever, one day i become a nasty person, i dun spare a tot for anyone, and reject ppl when they ask for help, wat will i become.. i'll just be someone whom is hated by ppl behind the back and then had lotsa fake friends who will "smile" infront of me, but scolding me behind my back.
but sometimes being nice will hav bad points oso, cos ppl who dunno u will feel u r such hypocrite, they'll think you so helpful meh? act act only la.. just wana make ppl think u r nice lor.. and then u get hated by this kinda ppl, because they think u r just trying to make everyone like u.. but wat i feel is, i rather ppl treat me nice, because they know im a nice person instead of actually they dun like me one, but they just pretend they r ok with me just because we r colleagues or any other relation..
then sometimes, when u r too nice.. ppl will think u r stupid.. haha! they will say, "u hor, so stupid, dunno how to reject ppl's request for help ar? like tat ppl will take it for granted that u will help them everytime" haha.. but my own policy is, if its within my limit and time, i will definitely help =)
i still remb last time in pri sch, some gal told me she hated me at first, because she find me very kpo.. hehe.. then aft some time (hmm when we abt to graduate) she feel that im a helpful person instead haha! i guess maybe thats the reason y sometimes i feel got ppl like not happy with me like tat (for no reason, to my understanding).. machiam i offended them.. haha!
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